Expectations: The Ultimate Killer of Travel Dreams

I'm fresh off a three week road trip where I journeyed across the country from Los Angeles to Chicago. Unlike other trips where I read books, watched documentaries, pored over blog posts, and talked to fellow travelers about my destination, my goal for this trip was simply to minimize my expectations. While I did a fair amount of research on local hikes, campgrounds, bear safety (yikes!), etc., I wanted to experience the trip without pre-conceived notions of what others had to say about it. 

Journeying across highways and country roads allowed me to simply observe my surroundings, watching and listening without assigning meaning or making assumptions. This is undoubtedly one of the most difficult feats when it comes to traveling across cultures and regions even within your own country.

When advising my gap year and remote work clients, I  encourage them to start their travels with no expectations. This encourages curiosity and a sense of openness.  When travelers minimize expectations, we become more willing to push out of our comfort zones. We more easily adapt to our new environment, and most importantly, we can more easily stay focused on the present. Silvia Plath knew this approach well...

"If you expect nothing from somebody, you'll never be disappointed." - Silvia plath

In embarking on a trip or cultural experience with an open mind and a sense of curiosity, we can more accurately identify what assumptions we're making about whom. We can more easily see that our perspective is just that--our own small perceptions of the world.


the road trip stats:

  • 11 states

  • 2582 miles

  • four national parks (Zion, Yellowstone, mt rushmore, badlands)

  • six state parks/national forests (Custer sp was my fave)

  • one rodeo outing (CODY, WY)

  • 10 campgrounds/cabins/hotel/guest bedrooms

  • 350 bison watched from afar

  • zero bears seen (fine by me!)


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